內(nèi)心強(qiáng)大的人必備的特質(zhì)
來(lái)看看內(nèi)心強(qiáng)大的人必備的七個(gè)特質(zhì)，你有了嗎?
1. Embrace Change
Hanna Phan’s story is a great example of embracing change. She was applying for jobs but wasn’t finding success with her resume. Why? Well, times have changed. The resume just isn’t as effective as it used to be. If you want to stand out from the crowd of job seekers, a resume doesn’t exactly yell out, “Hey, I’m awesome!” — unless you’re the CEO of Google or Facebook .
So what did Hanna do? Instead of complaining about the job market or how hard it was to get interviews with her resume, she embraced the fact that she had to do something radically awesome to get her potential employer’s attention.
She created a presentation resume video and tweeted it at the CEO of one of the hottest technology companies in the valley. You can YouTube search “Hanna Phan Presume.”
And yes, she got the job.
1、擁抱變化
漢娜•潘的故事就是一個(gè)很好的例子。她想要找工作，但她的簡(jiǎn)歷沒能幫助她取得成功。為什么呢?因?yàn)闀r(shí)代在變化。簡(jiǎn)歷不再像以前一樣有用了。如果你希望從蕓蕓眾生中脫穎而出，一份簡(jiǎn)歷通常并不能讓人虎軀一震——除非你是谷歌或Facebook的CEO。
那么，漢娜是怎樣做的?她沒有抱怨就業(yè)市場(chǎng)，也沒有埋怨光憑一份簡(jiǎn)歷多么難以獲得面試，而是積極接受現(xiàn)實(shí)，知道自己需要做出真正出色的事情，才能吸引潛在雇主的注意。
她創(chuàng)作了一個(gè)個(gè)人履歷演示視頻，并在Twitter上將其推送給了硅谷最炙手可熱的一家科技公司CEO。你可以在YouTube上搜索“Hanna Phan Presume”看到它。
最終，她求職成功了。
2. Be willing to take risks
There’s a risk to not taking a risk. It’s complacency. It’s stagnancy.
When I was 26, I had this idea that people would love to have flashcards to help themselves prepare for interviewing. After all, who likes to go to the store to buy pens, notecards and then have to write each of the questions and answers on their own?
So I decided I was going to build an app. The only problem was that I had no design skills, no marketing budget and no connections to developers. Oh, and I also couldn’t code — slight problem.
Building an app was really risky. Almost everyone I talked to told me that.
So what did I do? I buried myself into articles, trainings and networked with people in the space to learn as much as I could. Once I had an idea of how to approach it, I hired a developer on Elance and designed the app myself with Photoshop. Within a year I had built three top-50 apps in their respective categories. One app hit 75,000 downloads in a day.
Want to be mentally strong? You can’t be afraid. You have to be willing to take calculated risks.
2、勇于承擔(dān)風(fēng)險(xiǎn)
不敢去冒險(xiǎn)本身就是一種風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。它意味著懈怠自滿，停滯不前。
我在26歲時(shí)發(fā)現(xiàn)，人們很喜歡使用可抽取的小卡片來(lái)準(zhǔn)備面試。不過，誰(shuí)愿意去商店購(gòu)買鋼筆、卡片，再在上面寫上各個(gè)問題，然后自問自答呢?
所以我決定做一個(gè)應(yīng)用。唯一的問題是我不會(huì)設(shè)計(jì)，沒有營(yíng)銷資金，也不認(rèn)識(shí)開發(fā)者。呃，我還不會(huì)編碼，但這都是小問題。
做一個(gè)應(yīng)用真的風(fēng)險(xiǎn)很大。幾乎每個(gè)跟我談過的人都這么說。
那么我是怎么做的?我一頭扎進(jìn)各種教程和培訓(xùn)中，與業(yè)內(nèi)人士交流，盡可能多地掌握知識(shí)。想清楚了如何實(shí)現(xiàn)目標(biāo)之后，我在Elance上雇傭了一個(gè)開發(fā)者，自己用Photoshop設(shè)計(jì)應(yīng)用。在一年之內(nèi)，我就做出了三個(gè)應(yīng)用，它們?cè)诟髯灶悇e里都排進(jìn)了前50名。其中一個(gè)應(yīng)用的日下載數(shù)最高達(dá)到了7.5萬(wàn)。
想要變得堅(jiān)強(qiáng)?你可不能膽怯。你得愿意承擔(dān)那些經(jīng)過計(jì)算的合理風(fēng)險(xiǎn)。
3. Learn from the past and look toward the future
You’re going to make mistakes along the way. I call those “speed bumps.” (My good friend Nate Leung gave me that phrase.) Yes, sometimes it makes the ride a little uncomfortable, but hey, have you ever been stopped by a speed bump before? I don’t think so.
When I was at a Fortune 500 company, I emailed my boss’s boss once letting him know that I couldn’t make it to the regional sales team meeting. Guess what? My boss got angry that I emailed his boss instead of him. What seemed like an innocent email was actually a political fiasco, apparently.
I was really young and new to my career at the time, so I dwelled on it and felt terrible for a few days.Eventually, I realized I just needed to learn from it. Everyone has different styles at work and it’s important to be aware of how they want to work with you.
Guess what? I barely even think about that day now. In fact, I’ve actually never thought about it until now. That’s what I call a speed bump. If that happened to me today, I wouldn’t even blink. You learn to realize what’s a big deal and what’s not.
So when you run into a speed bump, learn from mistakes and move on. Keep your eyes on the future. You’ve got a lot of epic awesomeness ahead of you.
3、從過往中吸取教訓(xùn)，永遠(yuǎn)向前看
在成長(zhǎng)途中你會(huì)犯錯(cuò)。我把它們叫做“減速條”。(這是我的好朋友內(nèi)特•梁提出的說法。)對(duì)，有時(shí)候這會(huì)讓你開車時(shí)有點(diǎn)不適，不過，你會(huì)因?yàn)闇p速條而停車嗎?我想不會(huì)。
我曾經(jīng)就職于《財(cái)富》500強(qiáng)公司，當(dāng)時(shí)我給頂頭上司的老板發(fā)了一封郵件，告訴他我無(wú)法出席地區(qū)銷售團(tuán)隊(duì)的會(huì)議。猜猜發(fā)生了什么?我的上司非常憤怒，因?yàn)槲以郊?jí)匯報(bào)了。一封似乎很無(wú)辜的郵件，實(shí)際上“政治不正確”。
當(dāng)時(shí)我真的很年輕，職業(yè)生涯剛剛起步，所以我總是在想這件事，好幾天都感覺很糟糕。最后我意識(shí)到，我只是需要從中吸取教訓(xùn)。每個(gè)人都有不同的工作風(fēng)格，搞清楚他們想要怎么跟你共事十分重要。
我?guī)缀醪辉傧肽翘彀l(fā)生的事情了。實(shí)際上，直到剛才提到這事之前，我一次也沒想過。這就是我說的減速條。如果那件事現(xiàn)在發(fā)生在我身上，我甚至都不會(huì)眨一眨眼。你需要學(xué)會(huì)辨別哪些是重要的事情，哪些不是。
所以當(dāng)你遭遇減速條時(shí)，吸取經(jīng)驗(yàn)教訓(xùn)，繼續(xù)前進(jìn)吧。要著眼于未來(lái)。前方還有很多了不起的事情在等著你。
4. Stay positive
One of my best friends, Erik, had an awesome secret to staying positive.
Anytime a conversation would get tense or someone would get upset, Erik would acknowledge the feeling, talk it out with that person and then bring up a positive comment about a completely different topic. He wouldn’t let people dwell on negative emotions. If anything, he would try to cheer you up by making you laugh about something.
And you know what? It worked every single time for me.
If you want to be mentally strong, stop stewing on negative thoughts and feelings. Think positive.
Need some inspiration to feel more positive and happy in life and in work? Just read about my friend’s story here: The Secret to Being Happy at Work (And in Life)
4、保持積極心態(tài)
我的好朋友埃里克有個(gè)很棒的秘訣，它能夠幫助你始終保持積極的態(tài)度。
每當(dāng)談話陷入僵局，或是有人情緒沮喪，埃里克總能感受到。他會(huì)與那個(gè)人溝通，然后換一個(gè)不同的話題，提出積極的觀點(diǎn)。他從來(lái)不讓人們沉浸于負(fù)面情緒中。他會(huì)嘗試著給你打氣，設(shè)法讓你開懷大笑。
這對(duì)我每次都很奏效。
如果你想堅(jiān)強(qiáng)，就不要糾結(jié)于負(fù)面的'想法和感受。要積極樂觀地考慮問題。
5. “Celebrate what you’ve accomplished, but raise the bar a little higher each time you succeed.”
I freaking love this quote. Thanks, Mia Hamm.
In February, I threw my first big marketing event and one executive roundtable. We had 100 customers and prospects show up. There were laughs, an amazing customer story and an undeniable buzz in the building.After the event, people mentioned that it was a great event.
Do you know what I did after the event?
I thought about how I could make it better.
In April, I threw my second big marketing event. We had 140 people attend. We also hosted four roundtables simultaneously. There were laughs, an amazing executive panel and an undeniable buzz in the building.
After the event, people mentioned that it was even better than the first event.
Do you know what I did after the event?
I thought about how I could make it better.
Keep raising the bar. It’s how you stay mentally strong.
5、“為你取得的成就慶祝，不過每成功一次后都要把自我目標(biāo)提高一點(diǎn)。”
我非常喜歡這句話。謝謝你，瑪利爾•哈姆。
今年2月，我啟動(dòng)了第一場(chǎng)由我自己組織的大型營(yíng)銷活動(dòng)，以及一次行政圓桌會(huì)議。有100個(gè)客戶和潛在客戶出席了我們的活動(dòng)。會(huì)場(chǎng)中充滿歡聲笑語(yǔ)，我們分享了一個(gè)精彩的客戶案例，贏得了滿堂喝彩。結(jié)束后，人們說這場(chǎng)活動(dòng)真棒。
在活動(dòng)結(jié)束后我干了什么呢?
我想的是怎樣才能把它做得更好。
今年4月，我啟動(dòng)了第二場(chǎng)大型營(yíng)銷活動(dòng)。這次有140人參會(huì)。我們還同時(shí)舉辦了四場(chǎng)圓桌會(huì)議。高管研討會(huì)十分精彩，會(huì)場(chǎng)中充滿歡聲笑語(yǔ)，再次贏得了滿堂喝彩。
活動(dòng)結(jié)束后，人們說這場(chǎng)活動(dòng)比第一場(chǎng)還要好。
在活動(dòng)結(jié)束后我干了什么呢?
我想的是怎樣才能把它做得更好。
不斷提高自我目標(biāo)。這就是你保持堅(jiān)強(qiáng)的方式。
6. Focus on what you can control
Draw two circles that slightly overlap. In one, write, “Stuff that is important.” In the other circle, write, “Stuff that you can actually control.” See that small area where the two circles overlap? That’s what you should focus your energy on.
6、專注于你可以控制的事情
畫兩個(gè)有一部分重合的圓圈。在其中一個(gè)寫道：“重要的員工”。另一個(gè)寫道：“你可以控制的員工”�？吹絻蓚�(gè)圓圈重疊的地方了嗎?那些就是你應(yīng)當(dāng)著重關(guān)注的人。
7. Keep your eyes on the big picture
What’s your big picture? Is it building the playbook on how to grow a start up? Is it leading and inspiring a team to be at their best? Is it raising a great family and having great work life balance?
Whatever your big picture is, stay focused on it. Don’t get dragged down by the small stuff.
Now go out there and make it happen.
7、著眼于長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)規(guī)劃
你的長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)規(guī)劃是什么?是創(chuàng)建一家公司并讓它成長(zhǎng)壯大嗎?是領(lǐng)導(dǎo)一個(gè)團(tuán)隊(duì)，并激勵(lì)他們做到最好嗎?是經(jīng)營(yíng)一個(gè)很棒的家庭，并在家庭和工作上取得平衡嗎?
無(wú)論你的長(zhǎng)遠(yuǎn)規(guī)劃是什么，專注于它。不要被一些小事情所拖累。
現(xiàn)在就去實(shí)現(xiàn)它們吧。